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Sunday
If we could only know...
If we could only know and accept how much we are loved. If we knew how much we are loved, our fear would dissipate and our inner critic would disperse. We are a part of a loving universe.
When we accept that we are part of a loving universe, we begin to see our Divine essence.
We know we are never alone. We are always enveloped in love.
We can transcend the petty squabbles of our ego and see the Divine light in ourselves and others.
We can move through life with grace.
It is in our DNA to embrace all life
It is in our DNA to embrace all life.
Our little lives are a part of humanity and it is a distinct privilege to be a part of your family.
There is joy in solidarity.
It is good to be a caring human being.
Compassion
"Forgiveness and compassion are linked. How do we hold people accountable for wrong doing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?" - Bell Hooks
Empathy is feeling with another person. Compassion takes the next step in human evolution and acts on that feeling of unity consciousness. Compassion is our way of being in the world.
Compassion moves to create truth and love. Compassion moves us to response-ability and asks us to experience different truth.
Our compassion originates in unconditional love for self and others. We know we are all connected.
Compassion seeks the highest good for all.
Friendship
The best way to have a friend is to be a friend.
Being in a friendship is one of the most essential human relationships. The connection, bonding, and intimacy is a sharing of self at a level that invites us into deep learning. Healthy friendships help us become the best possible versions of ourselves.
My dearest friends encourage my authenticity, vulnerability, and courage. They also forgive me when I make mistakes and fall flat on my face. I also forgive them when they stumble in the human journey.
I continue to learn how to create healthy boundaries through my friendships. We teach people how to treat us by making it clear what we will accept and not accept. Through the development of truth and trust we make clear our agreements on how we will love and support each other.
Your Path…
The path you are on is unique to you. No one else will walk your path. We are each on a different path with different skills and gifts. Let go of the desire to gain approval from other people. You are unique in all the world. There is just one you.
Shine brightly. Others will warm themselves by your light and together you can share your journey.
Home
In the depths of our heart, we long for intimacy with unconditional love, with the Divine.
The tug we feel is Divinity beckoning us home. The paradox is that heaven (or home) is hidden in our hearts. We long for what we already have. The homesickness we feel can be resolved with quiet, silent mindfulness. In stillness, you will find your way home.
Authentic and Transparent
Be at peace. Practice being authentic and transparent.
Spirit is within each of us. When we are at peace with our authentic self, we replace fear with love. In this love, we find self-acceptance and share our best self with the world.
When we bring our best self into the world, we find the best in others. When we treat others as their best self, they respond from that place.
As we give, we receive.
When we are authentic and transparent, we form relationships that recognize and honor our authenticity and transparency.
We are at peace.
Life is constant change...
Life is constant change. Motion is the lotion for our body's health. Motion is change and change is renewal.
We are renewed in body, mind, and spirit and this renewal brings us deeper into the awareness of who we are.
We are wise to bring conscious thought into this change process. Let our thoughts be positive, uplifting, and generous.
Our relationships mirror back to us our core beliefs and values. Healthy relationships are mutually supportive, nurturing, loving, and beneficial. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable and trusting and come to a deeper connection. We thrive on this connection.
We are all one in spirit. We love and accept ourselves and our healthy relationships.
Healthy boundaries and self-awareness
Other's behavior toward us is often a reflection of their relationship with themselves.
I am still, at 70 years old, learning daily about boundaries in all relationships. In healthy, supportive relationships, respect, and love helps us build trust and connection. I am learning that appropriate boundaries build standards for how I will allow others to treat me.
Healthy boundaries are essential for trust and openness to grow and develop. Within these boundaries, we build a deeper connection and share what is acceptable and what is not.
I continue to find that most of my work in this area is internal. The first relationship is with myself and self-awareness leads to acceptance and love. From this self-awareness, I can extend myself by developing relationships built on mutual trust, respect, and support.
Our healthy relationships...
Empathy and compassion are created through relationships and a commitment to something or someone greater than you.
Our relationships vary in degree and intensity and are based on trust, honesty, integrity, and caring. We create our authentic relationships based on our self-awareness and social awareness.
All healthy relationships begin with connection. When we nurture our connection, we seek to honor, empower and uplift the spirit in the other. We bring our authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity to our friends, family, and workmates. We bring as much or more than we receive.
Let us all base our relationships on authenticity, empathy, compassion, and generosity.
Good and kind relationship with ourselves
For overall health and well being, it is essential to have a good and kind relationship with ourselves.
Kindness, acceptance, and love for ourselves is the groundwork for our love for others. We have no hope of truly loving another unless we practice kindness and self love for ourselves. Our relationships with others reflects our relationship with ourselves.
We first must recognize our relationship with Divinity and become aware of our worthiness. As emanations of the Divine, we are worthy of love simply because we are alive. We are worthy of goodness, kindness, health, abundance, and loving supportive relationships because we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
Our outer relationships resonate with the love that blossoms in each of us.
We are all worthy of loving and supportive relationships.
Shine the light of love...
No harm can do lasting damage when you know God is unconditional, is with you.
When we enter a difficult or painful period in our lives, we do not need to stay in the darkness. While in the darkness, feel all there is to feel. Feel the pain, feel the fear. Feel all that you feel- fully. Then turn on the light. Go to your sources of love and light. What are your sources of love and light?
For me they are my faith. My faith is an unconditional loving God. I do believe I am held in the palm of unconditional love. Another source of love and light is my wife Sandra. She is limitless kindness, compassion, deep caring, and love. There is also our angelic daughter Ashley. Although unable to speak or consciously move, Ashley emanates Divine love constantly.
My morning prayer and meditation are tools that turn on the light. Yoga, nature, water, and sun also bring me the warmth of love.
I choose to shine the light of love on every situation in my life.
Laughter is the Effervescence of Life
I greatly appreciate those individuals who sit lightly in our world. I love when we can laugh at ourselves. My nature is a bit on the serious side. I am naturally introspective and thoughtful and enjoy deep conversations.
I also love laughter. I find it healing and refreshing. I think a good sense of humor; especially self-effacing humor, is essential for a healthy life. I greatly appreciate people who can laugh at themselves.
I love when our lives bubble up with joy and laughter. Divinity is playful, full of joy, and has a wonderful sense of humor.
I am grateful for laughter and joy.
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