Friday

Lessons From Finland

Finland has become an international model for public education over the past ten years.  Once an average educational system, it now consistently ranks in the top three on the international charts.  The Finnish transformation has not included standardized tests, competition for private and charter schools, or longer school days.  One of the their secrets to success cites Thomas Jefferson.  Jefferson spoke and wrote about “equality of educational opportunity.”

Pasi Sahlberg, Finland’s renowned educator and author of Finnish Lessons, spoke at a lecture recently at the University of Hawaii.  In January, he will be visiting Harvard’s Graduate School of Education to share the way in which the Finnish system operates.  The Finnish model shows that as when we focus on equality, excellence follows. 

In Finland, children do not receive grades until fifth grade.  “Too much unhealthy competition,” Sahlberg states.  Collaboration is the primary focus.  The same collaboration that 21st century skills, Whole Child education, and Social Emotional Learning emphasize. 

Sahlberg says, “Children should be learning because they want to learn and understand.”  We need to re-emphasize our ability to inspire learning.  In the past ten years with the oppression of standardized tests, we have lost the ability to have a balanced curriculum.  Many schools have deleted or reduced arts, music, and in some elementary schools, recess. 

The United States once led the world in creativity and innovation.  Standardization of tests and curriculum continues to produce low academic performance and a negative impact on creativity, innovation, and general health. 

A sampling of the Finnish research is as follows:
  • Daycare is available to all.
  • Schools provide comprehensive health services and nutritional lunches.
  • Education is free from pre-school to University.
  • Teaching is a highly respected profession.  It is an intense, competitive career track.  All teachers earn Master’s Degrees.
  • Schools and teachers have autonomy.


Our issues and concerns are not educational.  We do not need to “fix” education.  Our issues are poverty, inequality, addictions, mental health concerns, violence, and political oppression.  Where there is poverty and inequality, there will always be pain.  Our answers are Whole Child education, Social Emotional Learning, and 21st Century Skills – Human teaching for human learning.

Sunday

Lean Into Fear

Today I woke up in fear.  Nothing specific - just that unique, deep sense of fear that sometimes haunts me.  I have learned to lean into fear – to feel the fear and move through it.  I pray - ask God to protect me, guide me, allow me to feel his loving presence. 

As I lean into my fear, I am reminded of my larger purpose.  Serve. 
Serve with love and passion.  Be vulnerable; Be authentic; Be transparent.  Risk.

Do not look for approval outside of myself.  Be the message.  Be deeply in the moment.  Be engaged in the act of sharing God’s love with the world. 

Though sometimes I would rather run away, I am faithfully open hearted.  The impact of spiritual love, faith, and trust compels me to be real – and I am revealed.  In my vulnerability, I experienced gratitude and grace.

Thursday

Be True To Yourself

Be true to yourself.  Not the self imposed by your family, not the self they imagined you to be, but your own true self.  Your true self has been carved by our invisible father and has been nurtured in the womb of your unseen mother.  Your true self is made in the image and likeness of God.

When you are true to yourself, you honor God within you.  When you are true to yourself, you respond to God, “Thank you for my divine purpose.”  Not the purpose of your sister, not the path of your brother - but a fulfilling of your unique calling.

Be true to yourself.  Express your God-given talents with the knowing that no one can deliver your gift to the world.  Do not abdicate.  There is no one who can duplicate the inner fire of your heart.  Only you hold the blueprint to God’s plan for your success. 

You may no longer stand on the sidelines.  Others have gone before you.  The hero’s path is well worn.  Now it is your time.  SHINE!

It is your moment.  Return to your center.  Be the authentic power God blessed you with.  Be thankful for your purpose; be true to yourself.  No one else can express you.  The world waits with ecstatic anticipation of your voice.

Friday

Our Deepest Fear


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. 
We ask ourselves: who am I to be brilliant, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightening about shrinking so other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. 
It’s not just in some of us, but in everyone of us.

And as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give others the permission to do the same.  As we are liberated, we automatically liberate others.

-       Marianne Williamson
(used by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Address)

Touch the stillness within and listen.  Let go of all thought.  Let go of being small.  Let go of hesitation and fear.  Let go of all expectations. 

Let spirit quiet you.  Let spirit move you.  Let it wash over you like a cleansing river of pure joy.  Let it burst open like a flower that can no longer contain the power of its fragrance.

God is and always shall be.

Monday

Go Deeper

God listens not to your words save when
He himself utters them through your lips.
- Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Prayer lives within our hearts.  It is peaceful amidst the challenges of life.  It calls you "go deeper - do more."  It calls you to express yourself as a child of God.  In the silence of your soul, prayer emerges into being to celebrate the glory of God.  It is called uplifting, transforming, healing, and wholeness.

Spirit is speaking to you.  It yearns to speak through you. 
Listen to it, hear it, speak it.
Surrender to it.
Be it.

Sunday

What Makes You Come Alive?

Do not ask what the world needs.  Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it.  Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. - Howard Thurman

I am inspired by this writing.  It encourages us to follow our bliss, to do what we love.  When we do what we love, we come alive.  When we do what we love, we give the world what it needs.

Tuesday

The Best Medicine

Educate, enlighten, lift up, empower, encourage, magnify the positive and minimize the negative.  This is the only medicine that will heal humanity.

"You are the only Bible some people will ever read."  Be a role model for what you believe.

Saturday

Share Your Story

Our stories are our life in words.  They are the map to our buried treasure.  They paint the way to our truth, to our core beliefs, to our essence.  When we share our story, it is healing for the listener as well as the speaker.  We find our unity in our stories.

I have shared my story, repeatedly, across continents.  I share to celebrate those in the story - my teachers, my mentors, my spiritual guides.  I share so I never forget who I have become and what created me.  I share it to emphasize we are never alone.  Our stories are universal.

Jesus shared God's love through stories.  Most of our great teachers have been storytellers.  When we share out story, we join the spiritual family.  We are all one in spirit (story).

Friday

You Are The Laboratory

You are the laboratory 
   and everyday is an experiment.
Go and find what is new
   and unexpected.
- Joel Elkes

Life is a laboratory.  Every experience we have is an opportunity for learning and growth.  Every conversation is an opportunity for relationship, reflection, and intimacy.  When we share our feelings, we find companionship or a new learning.  

Sometimes we find disinterest, lack of understanding, or rejection.  These are also opportunities.  We don't all dance the same dance.  We can accept the differences in each other and still choose not to be together.  

We may also find companionship; a spiritual family member.  The wonder of meeting someone who understands our feelings, vibrates with similar energy, and wants to know us at a deeper level.

I have always treasured these moments.  I have given my life for these moments.  They always give me the courage to continue my journey into the depths of becoming known and knowing.

Monday

Your Life Is Not A Fluke

Your life is not a fluke.  Your existence is not random happenstance.  You worked hard to be here.  There is a purpose in your life.  There is a mission you are to fulfill.  No one else can do it.  It is your unique destiny.

Every feeling, every thought, every action moves us to accomplishing our ultimate goal.  We remember the good that has been done to us and our gratitude move us to hep another move through their difficulty.  We pass the good along.  We are part of an unbroken chain of love and kindness.

Service leadership is a warm feeling of empathy.  As we do good for others, we expand the good in the world of which we are a part.  Everyone is connected in God's grace.

Saturday

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

This powerful prayer, shared at countless support group meetings worldwide, has always been a guiding force in my life.  To me, it says: 

First, change the changeable.  What in my life, or in myself, can I change?  Do it.  

Then, accept the unchangeable. If this is not in my power to change, accept it and let go.

Finally, remove myself from the unacceptable.  Whatever or whoever is no in alignment with my value system, I must find a way to remove myself.  I can remove myself (another form of letting go) either physically, mentally, socially, emotionally, or - the best way for me - spiritually (loving detachment).  I can send love, forgiveness, and gratitude.

I work to look for these changes only in myself.  I can't change anyone; I can only change my behaviors and attitudes.  I can make peace with the past.  I can reframe an old hurt.  I can see when a past loss opened up a new opportunity for growth.  I can let go.  Again, this is with love, forgiveness, and gratitude.  

Finally, I refuse to be held hostage by negativity.  No judgment, simply discernment.  We all dance a different dance.  I am choosing the dance of love, joy, peace, and service.

Sunday

Building a School Community

School Community Requirements
A community is a place where everyone works together for a common goal. In order to have a community, you need to have three things happening in your school.
  • Respect - of self and others
  • Responsibility -  for yourself and that of your group
  • Relationships - the ability to work collaboratively in a group and set aside all your differences.

Connecting the Community and Education
Every school, like every community, has its own distinct culture, values, and
rules. By building a community in the school, teachers create a common feel
connected to others. For children to participate in a school community - to
relate positively to others and become successful learners - their basic needs for
sustenance, safety, and belonging must be met. Only after basic needs are met can
human beings crave more.
  • Physiological needs - the most basic needs of living creatures. Children who are hungry think about their bellies instead of learning.
  • Safety - the feeling of security, comfort, and being out of danger. When teachers create a safe classroom community, children are able to positively relate to others, explore their environment, and engage in learning.
  • Belongingness - the feeling of being accepted and loved. In an effort to seek acceptance and love from adults, these children often exhibit behavior that tests acceptance. These children need adults who can create a school environment where everyone feels accepted and valued.
  • Self-esteem - the sense of one’s own worth. Children who feel competent as learners are more open to new experiences, better able to empathize with others, and more willing to persevere in learning tasks than are children who consistently feel inadequate.

How to Get Your School Started
Discuss with your students about the characteristics of a team. 
Have a team building vocabulary word of the day or week, such as respect, responsibility, cooperation, dependability, loyalty, etc. 
Build lessons and activities. 
Divide your class into small groups or teams. 
Assign specific duties to each member. 
Have the group come up with a team name, symbol, logo, mascot, etc. 
Integrate team building activities into your curriculum.

* Work on a math problem as a team.
* Work on a science or social studies project as a group.
* Write a story about their team.
* Read a story as a team using buddy reading, and then present the story in play form to the rest of the class.
* Design a poster with a team name and a self portrait of each member.
* Design and decorate a classroom bulletin board on an academic theme.

For the first week or so of school, have a “question of the day” which would be a daily question that students would answer about themselves.  If time is an issue, have them pair and share their responses with a different partner each day.

Thursday

A Shared Beat

If you place two living heart cells from two different people in a petri dish, they will, in time, find and maintain a third and common beat.  - Molly Vass

Hidden in our biology is the secret power of relationships.  The essence of life is to join together.
This is love.
This is life.

As our school year begins across the country, share your compassion.  It is only natural; it is what we were designed to do.  It does not matter how different we are.  Inside we all search for connection; we yearn to beat in unison with others.

Share your heart's song and invite others to sing along.




Friday

Ubuntu!


In old Africa, there is an ancient custom called Ubuntu.  
Ubuntu means “I am because you are; you are because I am…”

One of my core beliefs is unity.  We are all connected.  The spiritual teachers have taught this for thousands of year.  Now the scientists are teaching a similar message.  In our deepest pain and our greatest joy, we are all connected.  We are united.  We are one.  Ubuntu!

I see it in the eyes of a hungry child.  And in the tentative smile of the child recovering from abuse.  I feel it in the hug of the young person searching for identity.  And in the depth of those finding their voice.

It is in all teaching.  Jesus said “where two or more are gathered in my name”.  Buddha taught us compassion.  Saint Francis prayed to be an instrument of peace.

Ubuntu!  I am because you are; you are because I am…

For the 150 souls who just completed our LifeSkillsConference – 
We are united. 
We are one.

Tuesday

Pay Attention to Your Deepest Self


Carol Hegedus reminds us, “Our purpose is that which we most passionately are when we pay attention to our deepest selves.”

When Buddha rose from under the Bodhi tree, it is said a monk approached him in utter amazement at his luminosity and asked, “O Holy One, what are you?  You must be a God.”

Buddha, not thinking of himself as anything but present, answered, “No… not as a God,” and kept walking.

But the dazzled monk persisted, “Then you must be a Deva,” and Buddha stopped and said, “No… not a Deva,” and kept walking.

Still, the monk pursued him, “Then you must be Brahma himself!”

At this, Buddha simply uttered, “No.”

The monk, confused, implored, “Then what are you – Tell me, please – what are you?!”

Buddha could not repress his joy and replied, “I am awake.”

Cited from The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life  By Mark Nepo